Yes, you read the title right. I’m 14 weeks pregnant! Our baby is due March 6, 2016, the day before Roxy’s 4th birthday. So, it goes without saying that Kenny and I are absolutely ecstatic about this. But I’m not going to lie. We’re surprised. A few months ago we bought and moved into a new home in Elk Grove and have been settling in. We had talked about adopting another child. I actually had gone so far as to fill out another application for Holt, our adoption agency. After being married for now 6 years, and going through a miscarriage in November 2011, and realizing that I have never had and would never have a regular period every month (I’m so thin that I just don’t get my period as regularly), we had totally accepted and been fine with the idea of adopting our children. If God deemed that was the way we were going to create a family, then we would follow God’s will. But even as we talked this summer about adopting another child, God decided he had other plans for us this year. Some days I wake up, and I still can’t believe I’m pregnant. I think about our lives since we adopted Roxy and God has bestowed so many blessings that I feel like I’m a movie or one of those documentaries you see posts about on Facebook.
The day we found out I was pregnant, it was in July. Kenny was actually at a neurology conference in Denver. Roxy and I were home and I had some friends over. I had been in the bathroom with Roxy and stepped on the scale. I thought it was weird that I had gained 3 lbs. Those of you who know me know, that I don’t gain weight. I just don’t. I had also been having a lot of headaches and been feeling generally tired and out of it. I had made numerous medical appointments trying to figure out what was going on. But it never occurred to either me or Kenny that I could be pregnant. I decided to take a pregnancy test as a precaution, never imagining that I would actually be pregnant. Upon seeing the little plus sign, I screamed for my friends who were downstairs. Daisy, Merisa, and Sarah appeared, slightly alarmed by the urgency in my voice. I held up the test and Daisy said, “Shut the front door!” The girls then had me take 3 more tests. All were positive. I cried and embraced my friends. God had thrown another blessing into our lives.
I texted Kenny. “I need you call me. It’s urgent. If you’re in a meeting, please step out and call me immediately!” Kenny called and asked, “Is Roxy alright?!” “Roxy is fine,” I said. “Did anybody drown?!” asked Kenny. “Nobody drowned. Roxy is fine. Roxy is going to be a big sister. I’m pregnant!” My husband was silent. You could hear crickets on the phone. “What, but….” I told Kenny what had happened. Reality began to hit him. “You’re pregnant, I gotta change my flight home!” Two minutes after we had hung up the phone Kenny called me back. “Jax, go take another test!” I smiled. “Hun, I’ve taken 4. I’ll text you a pic. I’m 100% sure that I’m pregnant.”
We told Roxy that I was pregnant and her reaction was adorable. She asked, “Baby in Mama’s tummy?” She wanted to know why the baby couldn’t come out yet. We explained that the baby is growing and that the baby would come out when he or she was done growing. That night, she asked to say good night to the baby. By the next day, she started putting toys aside for the baby and repeatedly asking me when the baby could come out.
At our ultrasound we found out that I was actually 9 weeks pregnant. I have since had 2 more ultrasounds and am now 14 weeks pregnant. Now that the risk of miscarriage has decreased, it seems appropriate to reveal my pregnancy on our 6th wedding anniversary. We were married on September 5, 2009.
Now you all know why I haven’t been posting that much lately or going out much lately. I’ve been diagnosed with hyperemesis gravidarum (extreme nausea) so keeping down food has been a challenge. I’ve basically been resting at home a lot, eating lots of fruit, and sticking to bland soups, noodles, low sodium almonds, low sodium triscuits, and blending a lot of smoothies. Kenny has been taking good care of me and is loving and attentive. I totally any welcome tips you may have for getting through my pregnancy and especially for combating nausea. I’ve tried ginger ale, lemon drops, and vitamin B6. They all help a bit. I’m not big on ginger candy. I had trouble sleeping due to some low back pain until I bought a Snoogle pillow. Now I can’t sleep without it.
Somebody recently asked me if I think we will love our new baby differently than we love Roxy. And my answer to that question is that I think we will love each child just as much, but we will love them for the individuals they are rather than focusing on adoption versus genetics. I love Roxy for who she is. I love her friendly and caring nature and her feisty personality. I love Roxy on a daily basis and to me she’s just my child, regardless of how she came to be. We will love this new baby for who they are as well. Roxy will never be loved less or more than the baby growing inside me now. Kenny and I have enough love for them both. The same will be the case for any other child that we adopt or give birth to. We’re not fully sure if this will be our last child but I somehow think that God isn’t done with us yet.
Kenny, Roxy, and I are thrilled to share our incredible news with all of you. Roxy is very aware that there is a baby in Mommy’s tummy and she is looking forward to being a big sister. Roxy kisses my belly and sings to the baby daily. I’m going to have to post a video soon. I thank you for all of your heartfelt wishes, support, and prayers. I ask for your continued prayer for my nausea and headaches and that God would just allow our baby to grow to be healthy and to be delivered safely. May God bless all of you and your families!
Dr. Jacqueline "Jax" Cheung grew up in Sacramento, California. She is a Christian Wife, Proud Mom, Major Foodie, Sacramento Native, Elk Grove Resident, Feminist, Adoption Advocate, Blogger, Freelance Writer, and Cat Lover. Jax is the owner of the award winning Jax Chronicles Blog & Adoption Ministry. She is also the Editor-In-Chief of the Elk Grove Tribune, and freelances for Sacramento4Kids, and many other publications. Jax is married to Dr. Kenneth Cheung (Kenny). Jax and Kenny live in Elk Grove, California and have 2 daughters named Roxy and Carissa, and 3 cats named Mochi, Miso, and Mango. To follow her journey please like her Jax Chronicles Facebook page, follow her Instagram @jaxchronicles, follow her Twitter @jaxchronicles, or check out Jax Chronicles Blog & Adoption ministry.